STOP ASKING YOUR PARTNER TO BE GOD
Why your relationships fail when you use them to prove you exist.
The Universal Hunger
There is no human being who does not want connection. The soul was created in connection, it remembers connection, and it hunts for it in every corner of reality. But most of us are hunting with a broken compass.
The Distortion
When a child experiences broken love at a young age—when the mirror at home was cracked or missing—the definition of “Connection” gets distorted. The hunger doesn’t disappear; it mutates. We spend our lives searching for that missing gaze. We become willing to erase ourselves, to compromise our truth, and to do things that are essentially wrong, just to buy a moment of feeling “seen.” We are not looking for a partner. We are looking for a witness to prove we exist.
The Vertical Anchor
Here is the architectural truth: The root of this hunger is not for a person. It is for the Creator. Only the Source can provide “Absolute Value” and “Absolute Meaning.” You need a connection with the Infinite to know that you are valid not because of what you do, give, or prove, but simply because you are.
The War of the Beggars
When a person is disconnected from the Source, they go out into the world to hunt for value in other people. But the person you meet out there is exactly like you. They are also hungry. They are also looking for value and meaning.
When two empty people meet, they don’t create love. They create a transaction. “I will validate you if you validate me.” This creates dependency, demand, and a covert war for energy. You are trying to drink from a cup that is already empty.
The Infinite Circuit
But when two people know their value in relation to the Creator—when their primary anchor is already secured in the Vertical—the dynamic changes completely. They don’t need to take life from each other. They can share life with each other.
They are not two beggars fighting over a scrap of validation. They are two sovereigns meeting to build a world. This is the only way to build a connection that is truly deep, truly safe, and truly infinite.
Translated from the Hebrew Transmissions of Ruth Kedem
ORIYA’S NOTE
We grew up on the Hollywood lie: “You complete me.” This is the most dangerous sentence in the history of romance.
If you are incomplete, and you find someone else who is incomplete, you don’t make a whole. You make a two-headed monster of need. We put impossible pressure on our partners. We ask them to be our father, our mother, our therapist, and our God. We ask them to make us feel worthy of existing.
No human being can carry that weight. Eventually, they will collapse, or they will resent you for the burden.
The text offers a structural fix: Secure your existence Vertically (with the Divine) so you don’t have to beg for it Horizontally (with people). Come to the relationship full, not hungry. Then, you aren’t using the other person. You are finally loving them.